Do You Have Trauma?

Do You Have Trauma?

“He did this to me.”  Even saying those words sucks the air out of the room.  My breathing becomes labored and my heart rate increases.  Sometimes I think back on the memories and I have to ask myself, “Did that really happen to me?”   It seems...
Step 1: Honesty

Step 1: Honesty

Honesty…. Honesty…. Honesty, it is something that we expect from ourselves and from others, but talk about painful.  It can be yucky to take a look at ourselves and our behaviors and the character flaws that keep us from becoming the person we want to...
My Name is Norma and I have Complex Trauma

My Name is Norma and I have Complex Trauma

It’s almost as if I am standing in front of a 12 step group, finally coming to the realization that I am powerless over my trauma.  I have to admit that lately, it has been kicking my butt.  Triggers are surfacing everywhere, triggers that I didn’t have to...
Taking a Toll Before Christmas

Taking a Toll Before Christmas

How is it possible to wake up first thing in the morning and feel completely drained?  That was me this morning.  I am anxious and just my normal day to day tasks seem to be so overwhelming.  Returning an item to a store, taking Christmas gifts to the school for the...
EMDR Works

EMDR Works

“I missed you at the last class, how are you doing with your husband’s intern?”  I read the message and had to stop.  Honestly, I haven’t even thought about it in weeks.  I was a bit shocked.  My old pattern would have been to obsess about it. ...