Handling Disappointment Without Foreboding Joy

Handling Disappointment Without Foreboding Joy

I am more than a little bit annoyed this morning.  This is not what I was planning on writing about, but sometimes I don’t find my topics, they find me.  The truth is that I am not always good at handling disappointment without wanting to just give up on...
She Became A Trigger, I Built A Wall

She Became A Trigger, I Built A Wall

I saw her walk toward us.  She was so beautiful, but I had no idea who she was until he said, “Amy”, with admiration in his voice.  I looked up at him, his smile told a story and fear reached into me. “No, this can not be happening to me,” I...
Part 2: Breaking Through Denial

Part 2: Breaking Through Denial

Don’t let denial be a roadblock Remember denial is a coping mechanism that we use to protect ourselves.  You need to be aware that coming out of denial can be very painful.  I had a therapist that I was working with when I was coming out of denial.  She was able...
Part 1: Denial, Alcohol and Women

Part 1: Denial, Alcohol and Women

I was worried, 11:00 turned into midnight, then 1:00.  I wrung my hands as I waited.  My shoulders felt heavy and my brain was flooded with ‘what ifs’. What if he wasn’t coming back?  What if he was hurt? What if he was with another woman? He was mad...
Comparison, No One Wins

Comparison, No One Wins

A few weeks ago my son came home from his dad’s house and he was really upset.  I decided it was worth a conversation, so the next time I saw his dad I brought it up.  My ex-husband completely blew me off and said, “You are just jealous of ___________(his...